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Meteor 2016
Registered Member #316
Joined: Mon Jun 26 2006, 09:14PMPosts: 3503 |
You've all been depressed at some point in your life, unless if you're a crazy hedonist of course. How do you deal with depression? What could lead the human heart to fall in a slump of sadness that for a long period of time cannot be ridden of? Most of the time it doesn't even have to be a big thing for some. Of course, if you mention the fact that you're depressed you start getting steriotyped like crazy as an emo. I myself can say that I'm a very depressed person, and if it doesn't show then I don't know how else it doesn't. Lately especially, it has showed. I'm not going to list my scenarios unless you really want to hear them, but they aren't good and even though I consider myself a man, I do cry alot because of my problems. If any of you have been depressed for anything, how do you handle it? I, myself being a religeous person has found out that not even that can stop my downfall in a person. It's tough to man up once thing after thing keeps happening to you, and all at once. Let me know what you all think. One way that I sometimes can get rid of it is to write a poem. If you have me on a friend on Myspace, I now have two poems written that I have displayed publicly. The other ones that I have written are kinda explicit to my hatred of mandkind and I'd rather not expose them due to the fact that you may see me as a serial killer -_- However, if you feel open enough, post your poetry! I will glady copy and paste my latest work of art later on if you would like to see an example of my deepness. |
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I want to fuck your hand.
Registered Member #571
Joined: Thu Feb 15 2007, 09:59PMPosts: 2809 |
honestly... Ive been very depressed this passed year. I didnt even think of starting a thread asking how other cope with it, but im glad you did. This past year my grades have gone down, my relationships with family have gone down, and im losing some really good friends... why? the females. Ive been really close to this one and she is like dragging me with a chain behind a mac truck doing 100 mph. I cant get rid of her, and im still dealing with her Anyways, how to cope with it.. Like you said. I find it really easy as a writer to write stories about it. Im not a fan of poetry, but you could call some of my writing pieces poetry. also.. talking with people I look up to, asking for advice, is always what I do. and most of the time, since I have such mature, good friends, they offer to talk to me, and help me in anyway. Also, targetting WHY you are depressed is good. like for me, Ive realized its this bitch of a girl, but I cant get her out of my life. so im working on other things to make me happy. like fixing my sleep patterns. Also ive been working out, using my ab lounge to get that six pack ive always wanted  and running 4.8miles in under 40 minutes almost every night. Staying active is the best thing you can do. I dont know the whole story.. but I understand the situation you are in. And that is just something you cant get around. Denial is the worst, and accepting it for what it is is the best. Something that just takes time... and something that will always effect you and something you need to accept. Nothing you can really do but talk about it, and make sure you are aware of all your emotions and not in denial about anything Also.. you mentioned crying. And as a 16 year old male, its like so embarrassing for me to say that I have while depressed, lol. I mean, people say "whatever, people cry", but for me it really hurts to say that I have. Not numerous times, but sometimes everything just seems so overwhelming that its necessary... and I think that that is one of the best ways of getting out of depression. because after you are done, you just feel better, like a sweet release of your negative emotions idk, the list goes on and on. but the best things I do to be happy DURING my depression, becuase getting completely out is hard as hell: 1) Accepting what has happened, and what will happen, and getting over that one step at a time. Denial is the worst thing to be in!! 2) Staying active. Exercising and RUNNING mostly, specifically alone with this entire category, because you want to just be alone, and think about everything while you are getting exercise. 3) Writing about your feelings, or talking with someone close, or many friends to just talk about what is going on, and asking for advice on what to do. Or just talking with someone to get comfort, and love, etc. 4) Crying. plain and simple. You cant force it out of you, but when the time comes when you feel you need to, just let it go. Its as necessary as all the other things I do to deal with depression 5) 5 isnt necessary, in almost any situation, but if it comes down to it. Try and find a counselor, or someone professional who you can talk to. My mom told me I might need one, but I feel like I can deal with this on my own. but for some people, it is necessary. and who knows, maybe some day it might come to that |
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Joined: Fri Nov 25 2005, 11:39PMPosts: 665 |
Oh, what I do is go on a server I have admin on and abuse the HELL outta peop-oh....right, nevermind. | ||
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Registered Member #395
Joined: Tue Aug 22 2006, 05:10PMPosts: 62 |
Say fuck the world and pull yourself up by your own damn bootstraps because nobody will do it for you. If you want something in this world then take it because it damn sure won't be handed to you just because you're a nice guy and have fallen on some hard times and some shitty luck. It may sound harsh but thats what I realized. I too have some poetry and shit that I wrote and posted for some people to see. It's unfortunate that even among friends not many of them know the real you and even fewer can you truly talk to and connect with on that level that all humans want and crave. Everyone puts on a facade for the outside world so that others can't get in or at least not as easily. I for instance can be taken as a class clown, a sarcastic prankster who is even an asshole at times but that is not really me although it takes time for people to see that if they ever do. | ||
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Registered Member #251
Joined: Wed May 10 2006, 10:47AMPosts: 227 |
ya, Night, youve been a royal ass to me, and to others the past couple Months. If you have life problems, take them elsewre, im so sick of you having your bipolar moodswings. Weve been freinds since i joined FT, but latley, your just acting like a pussy. I had 4 of my close frineds die in car accident by a drunken fucking driver in 2006. I lost my uncle to suicide, my aunt to suicide, and my frined just died in January after they told him he had 2 weeks to live because of cancer, yet i have never took it out on anyone in game or on the comp. If u are depressed my friend get help, because im honestly sick of it | ||
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I want to fuck your hand.
Registered Member #571
Joined: Thu Feb 15 2007, 09:59PM Posts: 2809 |
this is a thread where he is SEAKING help. not a place where he wants people to bash him for the wrongs he has done. Give him advice on how to get better, not bash him cause he's been a dick "Why kick a guy when he is already down?" |
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♥ (✿◠‿◠) ♥
Registered Member #75
Joined: Sat Dec 17 2005, 08:51PMPosts: 3128 |
I know EXACTLY what you mean, Night. The second you mention being depressed, or anything of the sort, everyone says "WOW U FUCKING EMO LOLZ" or "wow, you're not emo, stop posing". It gets REALLY annoying, but some ways I deal.. 1) Embracing it. If you just learn to accept it, then you'll be happier about it when it comes. Just wait it out, and it will be done overnight hopefully. If you learn to not hate your depression, you'll learn to not be depressed at all. 2) Music. Listen to music that has lyrics that explain how you feel. Or, music with a tone/melody/beat/overall feel of how you feel. It helps with step 1, and if you slowly graduate to happier music over the course of the night, or however long you're depressed, it gradually gets better. 3) Alone. Just stay alone, till you're all done. You won't hurt other people in the mean time, and you won't be exposed to the things that are depressing you. PLAY CSS! Play SOMETHING that makes you laugh, have fun, anything. 4) ART! If you have some form you like to express yourself, do it! Get it ALL out. Photoshop a piece, wright a poem, sing a song, just SCREAM. Whatever is fun, and gets your anger/depression out. 5) Friends. Talk to friends, or anyone who will compliment your or tell you they appreciate something you do/have done/did. Help someone out, and they'll say thank you. It really lifts MY spirit when I get a "thank you!", "TY!", "ILY <3", "=] you're good!", etc. Like I said, go play css, and pwn. It'll make you feel better. It feels great knowing that people appreciate you, and care if you're here or not. ILY <3 =] And yeah, Twitch, that was just stupid. I'm sure you're helping with depression, you should definitely be a psychologist. Help, or be gone. Edited Thu May 03 2007, 02:59AM |
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Meteor 2016
Registered Member #316
Joined: Mon Jun 26 2006, 09:14PM Posts: 3503 |
It's not about the fact that it's hard times, it's that and my past. I've had a tougher life then most people that I know and I have to deal with the fact of it haunting me in the back of my mind. You can't say "Fuck the world" because your technically falling into denial. It's soon enough that the world rears it's ugly head right back in your face. I put on a face because if I didn't then people would hate me and put pity on me. I don't want pity from people because it just reminds me more of the person that I really am. I started exercising alot in the past 2 months. I walk about 3-4 times a week, an average of at least 30 miles a week. I run in the mix as well. It makes me feel a bunch better once I'm done doing it, but right away something else has to show me that the world is still ugly. I have no dad, I haven't seen my dad since I was 8 years old, and that was in a courtroom. I'll probably never see him every again in my life because he is in jail for the rest of his life. If you're curious of what he's done, it's simple. Child Abuse, abuse of his wife, and rape of my two sisters. I can remember the nights when I was 4 years old waking up to hear him drunk beating the shit out of my mom for no reason at all. Case after case, night after night, I dealt with the same thing every day. They say the person that you're going to turn out depends on how good of a childhood you've had. Well, there's my fuckin childhood for you. I had none. I can remember sitting in the kitchen one morning only to find cops surrounding my house. I guess my older sister finally got brave enough to sell him out. So they took me, I went to foster care. That completes the story of my childhood. I was with parents I didn't even know. Court case after court case, I sat and every time I'd see my mom come out crying, empty. Another month, another court case lost. Took her two years, but I was back at age 10. Only to be made fun of because my mom didn't have enough money so we could live like everyone else. I was stuck in a small apartment next to a store, but it was better then nothing. Years pass, nobody grew up. I dealt with the same people every day. My grades fell, and I eventually got held back. I cut, thought about suicide. Seemed my days were getting darker and darker every day. Until I thought I found hope. One of my old friends brought me to a youth group, where I came out of my dark hole. This happiness was great, but it wore off. I thought I was out of the ugly world, but I was wrong. I started dating girls finally, once I grew up and got some good looks. It worked again only temporarily, and those relationships were lost. My last relationship was only a month, and for good reason. The happiest people in your life exist and you look at them as a role model. And as easily as they can make a great impression on you, they can be taken away. And I found that out the hard way. The role model of my life was crouching at the end of a shotgun, with minutes to breathe. I wasn't there, but a good friend of mine told me every detail, sparing nothing. It's a shame that someone that was a good person like his would end to someone who destroyed themselves with drugs. Maybe people needed that to happen as a wake up call, but I sure as hell didn't. Everything I thought I escaped from relapsed on me as quick as I thought it left me. I couldn't explain myself to anyone, nor could I escape the grip it held on me. I wasn't the same person anymore and my girlfriend let me know by letting me go. And now, here I am. I could end my life easily by the barrel of a gun but for some reason I think there's something more to live for. I don't know what it is, but I'm going to wait. And I'm going to come out of this hole of the man that I am. I never thought I would explain and tell everything to people that I've never even met before, but you guys have been the closest people I know besides a few friends that I have in real life. If you did take the time to read all of this, I thank you as it took me a while to write it. |
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Registered Member #75
Joined: Sat Dec 17 2005, 08:51PM Posts: 3128 |
Don't do bad in school. It will make the rest of your life miserable, unless you have some sort of "connections". If you're not doing homework, and just skipping classes and stuff, you'll be feeling this way your whole life. If you try, and get good grades, and go to a good college, you'll have a good life. Get a good job, a nice house, all that stuff. Don't do drugs either. |
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Registered Member #251
Joined: Wed May 10 2006, 10:47AM Posts: 227 |
^^ Night sry for seeming aggresive above, but man, u cant act liek a dick towards ppl on here when theyz done nothing wrong lol. There are many examples that i dont even have to post. Im very sry about ur child hood, and to say mines not been as bad as urs, but last year i got into drugs..... if you wanna kno the hole story pm me kause its realy personal but im in the same river as u (not in the samwe bout kause i got diff problems). My point is, just try nto to act out in aggresion agaisnt ppl in the sever, or the site. | ||
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