Zero wrote ...

I wasn't gonna say anything because its kindof dumb and it's not something I would share publicly, but

Here it comes anyway

recently me and my girlfriend have been having issues. While I was in puerto rico I kissed another girl, (I was fucking PLASTERED out of my mind.. but that's still not an excuse..) I felt absolutely horrible so I had to tell her myself, and just suffer through what was going to happen.

Bad move. Guilt vs lonliness in a battle to the death cage match, who wins?

Unfortunately.. I took the situation too light.. and she probably doesnt want to take me back.. Now.. this is the one girl that I thought was perfect for me. She didnt mind that I was a bad boy, but she really brought the best out in me... and I just wanted to give her whatever she wanted because it just felt like she deserved the world. I know... sounds like im a little nincy faggot, But I really loved this girl. What I thought was a little problem, was apparently my biggest mistake. I just told her under a week ago, so obviously things are rough.. but she keeps talking about how we might break up, but in the mean time we are still dating... She keeps talking about this kid that likes her and how she wants to get even but she doesnt want to go that low.. idk :/ I've been trying to be so good, and I always try and be the best I can for her, but I really fucked it up.

Ok I'm going to ignore calling you a "nincy faggot" since you called yourself it already, kudos on the adjective. Not sure what it means but it sounds apt. Let me translate chick speak into guy talk for you.

Chick Speak: "There's this guy that really likes me."
Meaning: "Pay more attention to me."
Chick Speak: "I need to get even with you."
Meaning: "You hurt me so now I need to make you feel bad."
Chick Speak: "I'm going to make out with him to get back at you."
Meaning: "If I'm going to make out with other guys it has nothing to do with you, it's because I'm a whore."

Pay particular attention to item #2. She's saying she needs to get back at you. What she means is that you hurt her. She wants you to feel how she felt. However, she's a dumb girl, so rather than talk about it or solve it creatively (like squeezing a lemon in your eye or lighting your pubes on fire) she's going to THREATEN to respond in kind. Effectively making you feel bad although perhaps not bad enough to satisfy her but enough to slowly torture your heart and mind and soul until you become a shell of your former self.

My advice at this point. *WARNING NOT NOVICE MATERIAL* Is to do two things in two swift motions. First, next time she mentions it. Break down. Absolutely lose it. Cry. Throw a tantrum. Beg her. Apologize. Run around like your hairs on fire. I mean totally lose it, fuckin pretend you're in the drama club and you're auditioning for the role of "Distraught Ex-Lover About to Off Himself" . Scream at her about how much this has been killing you and how you wish you had never done it and if you could you would of had your plane crash into the fucking Atlantic Ocean so you didn't have to deal with this GUILT! THIS FUCKING GUILT! WHY DO I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!? WHY DID I KISS THAT FUCKING WHORE!? WHY AM I SO STUPID!? Really sell it...

Then wait... wait for a reaction. If you do it well enough she should well up, maybe start crying. Try to show her that you feel worse than she could have ever possibly felt and you've felt it alot longer and that the only reason you're putting up with it is because you love her. She should start crying and probably apologize.

Gratz, you win. IF THAT DOESN'T WORK. And there's a 20% chance it won't, she may pull the bitch card.

This is where you get to flip out for real. I mean really fucking lose it. Not of complete and utter dispair, no. Now you get to display righteous anger. Scream "WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU WANT FROM ME!? TELL ME! ILL FUCKING DO IT! IM NOT PERFECT! IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT!? SOMEONE WHO IS FUCKING PERFECT!? WELL GO FIND HIM BECAUSE ITS NOT ME! NO! DONT TOUCH ME! FUCK YOU! APPARENTLY LOVING YOU ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH! (great line) GO FUCKING FIND MR PERFECT CAUSE HES NOT HERE! IM FUCKING DONE!" And leave. Break up with her before she can break up with you. (one of the best cards to pull, really dude, take control right away from her)

The name of the game is control dude, you always want to be in control. You are driving, you're the captain, you're the pilot. Lead, don't follow. She's controlling you right now, until you regain dominance, you're going to be miserable.

I read the rest of what you wrote man and I hear you. However, this has nothing to do with "pimp magic". It's literally psychology, a known and studied yet imperfect science. This isn't bullshit, this isn't MY advice. This is what has worked since the dawn of time.

I'm giving you examples but am totally blowing over the underlying fundamental psychological concepts here. It would take WAY too much time and energy to write them down. Besides they've been written down before. They're out there man if you're willing to look for them.

Here's some places to start:
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion - Robert Cialdini
The Art of Seduction - Robert Greene
The Game - Neil Strauss
Never Be Lied to Again - Davod Lieberman
I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell - Tucker Max (just read this, no psych involved, awesome stories though)

I mean dude there's a fuckload of info out there.

Why did I do all this? Because I was like you, not too long ago. Frustrated, sexually and mentally. I loved these girls, I was a good (not great) guy. I could befriend anyone. But I couldn't get the attachment that I wanted (or thought I wanted). I couldn't win. I felt like a loser, like a real dumbass. It wasn't only with women either. I had trouble getting people to return phone calls. I had trouble convincing my boss to give me a raise. People were taking advantage of me and I didn't even realize it. All I knew was I wasn't getting anywhere near to what I should be getting out of my relationships. I was putting in alot more effort than the other people and getting alot less in return.

I've studied investing and that's a bad investment. An unsustainable one. But we weren't talking about money, We're talking about my emotions, my thoughts and energy, my life.

So... I did what any engineer does when they have a problem they've never come across. Looked for people with the same problems or similar problems. Found some answers, and kept digging til I 1) was satisfied I knew enough to avoid the problem in the future and 2) saw results with the solutions I developed.

Now. That's a rant.

And this is the end of it.

Madvillain wrote ...

hopefully theres someone out there praying for us...

gLiTchâ„¢ wrote ...



Zero.. dude, sit her down. You dont need to throw a fit like NoSkill said. Sit her down, and pour your heart out to her. Dont raise your voice until you absolutely have to. Cry if you have too. (Adds to the feeling of it). Tell her that you messed up. Tell her that you cant forgive yourself for it. tell her that its left a hole in you. Tell her that you dont want to lose her. Tell her your so sorry, that your not perfect and you fucked up bad. Tell her that she means the world to you. That should work. If it doesnt... just raise your voice a bit and ask her what she wants from you. Tell her that you cant change what you did. And scream sorry a bunch more times. Goodluck bro.

And dont worry bout being 18 and being young. I feel the same way every day. I wish sometimes i wasnt tied down. But then i say to myself, i get much more in return with my g/f. Its better. MV, dont knock it till you try it. And im talkin, not 1 month status. If you really like the girl, have some patience and see how long you can go.

Zero wrote ...

(didnt mean to shoot you down noskill, I know where you're coming from )

NoSkill wrote ...


No offense to Glitch, but he's a natural.